Take a breath – be positive – be part of the solution  - do not be part of the problem

Step 1

Repeat positive and calming self-statements IMMEDIATELY, such as “I’ll get through this OK, Relax, Breath”.  Nothing is worth my making it worse.”

Since your anger has been triggered, and you may be out of control, stop everything.  Take deep breaths slowly – as they say – count to ten, OR take a walk.

Step 2

Save your energy and curb your feelings.  In many anger-provoking situations it’s necessary to emotionally take time out before you reach your limit.  Don’t keep trying so hard.  If your expectations for your work or your relationships are too high, you may have become too emotionally involved.

Don’t saturate yourself in disappointment.  You are not as alone or without options as you think you are.

Step 3

Tell yourself you have a choice in how you respond.  You DO have a choice.

Have you ever opened your eyes in the morning and thought, “This is going to be a great day?”  You can do likewise with anger.  Tell yourself, “If I feel angry today, I’ll let myself feel the pain and possibly get hurt, but I don’t have to react with razor blade words, I have choices.”

If an anger-provoking confrontation with someone occurs, without making excuses for others, try to resist the temptation to take the situation personally.

Step 4

Calm down enough to manage the situation;  THEN and only then, make a plan and follow through.

When you feel calmer, think back to what happened from as many views as possible.  Set a goal of having less stress in your life.  NO act that ultimately damages your life emotionally and/or legally is worth the price you’ll pay for immediate relief.

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