Your beliefs and attitudes directly determine what is drawn to you.

While it may initially sound like actual beliefs (or at least whatever you buy into at any given time) would directly determine which kinds of people and situations are magnetized toward your direction.  Like-minded people, whether consciously or unconsciously, are bound to find each other.

It’s no secret that if you are drunk at a party, you’ll be inclined to attract different individuals and experiences from those you’d come across if you were sober.  (You’ll also get different responses from those you come across.)

Remember the cliques in junior high and high school? It’s rather amusing to think the same kinds of groupings and the same sorts of behaviors take place at almost every school to some degree, even if the students never do meet those from other places.

The rest of our lives actually involve being placed in various types of groupings almost the same way, although it is much less obvious.

Consider the following statements.  Perhaps you’ve found yourself saying or feeling some of them:

• “How come I always seem to attract all the losers, while my girlfriend always gets all the good guys?”
  • While you may believe you think a lot of yourself, perhaps some unrealized low self-esteem pattern or need to seem “better” than those around you propels you to attract those you are inclined to want to reject or put down in some way
• “I don’t know how he does it! He always manages to surround himself with good people.”
  • This could be a sign of a person with a lot of integrity and wisdom who knows how to attract the right people.  On the other hand, this could be an individual with a personality disorder that allows him to know what to say and how to say it to individuals who are basically good people but who have some hidden flaw in their character that sets them up to be taken. At times, that flaw is the over-compensating need to please others, even if it jeopardizes themselves.
• “I’m tired of always attracting people who take advantage of me.”
  • This could potentially be a martyr who makes a living pretending not to see the red flags at first and then overly pointing them out to others later
• “I can’t get over how the women all floc to me now that I have a girlfried and I’m no longer looking.  Before I met my fiance’, I couldn’t seem to catch a cold.”
  • While it’s true that most people are often attracted to someone who is happy and confident, in this particular scenario, chances are that the people who would be attracted to someone in a committed relationship are the ones who would most likely not be interested in someone who is available or attracted to them.
  • If you find yourself always drawn to those who are unavailable, that could mean you are more “wired” to go after someone you can’t get than you are to receive someone who could actually have a relationship with you.

We know that inner beliefs form the foundation of perception.  Your experiences are interpreted within the framework of these beliefs.  What are YOUR inner beliefs, YOUR inner strength?  Use them to YOUR benefit…keep that positive energy (thoughts) flowing freely.