Use Social Activity As A Service and Benefit

Do you find you only feel “worthy” when you are getting attention from others? Then you may find yourself feeling like you are ”disappearing” when you are in a group of people and don’t stand out in some way. You may not understand why you feel this way or that you are even doing it.

In work-related groups or social clubs, make a point of getting involved for the benefit of others as well as for yourself. Approach work or social organizations as if it’s a priviledge for you to serve others.

Feel free to give what you can and “sing your heart out.” If you make room for others in the group to benefit along with you, you will be better received and appreciated for your efforts.

If you really are doing some “big” things, involving others and helping them, as well as letting them help you, this truly makes you a wonderful person. Also, you will probably evoke less jealously from people when you don’t come from the standpoint of just aggrandizing yourself.

When you stand out and become a “star”, play your part, then blend in again. Consider it a priviledge to play a leadership role but know there’s also plenty to gain from sitting back and letting others shine when it’s their turn. You get a better grasp of the big picture and better sense of yourself when you are part of the crowd and don’t take yourself so seriously.

Don’t Compare Yourself to Others

Make a list of five acquaintances or idols you feel are successful in some way. Write down how and why they are so accomplished. Then consider their burdens and flaws if you know them.

They all have hurdles possibly ones you would never want to have to overcome yoursels. As much as you might fantasize about being someone else, his or her life can’t really be more right for you than your own.

The sooner you let go of envying or idolizing others and focus on your own assets and challenges, the better off you will be. Learn from them as much as you can, but focus on your own special uniqueness.

The future is yours… what we put out we get back…share your authentic self. What are you going to do differently? Please share your comments, I’d love to help you.

Filed Under: Relationships · Tagged With: accept the person, forgiving yourself, positive energy

Giving The Gift That Keeps on Giving This Holiday-“Ring Shui”

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The added bonus is, you’ll be giving them something they probably don’t already have!) It has been such a joy to work with so many people in sharing the “Ring Shui^TM” approach!

I find that with every point we discuss concerning where to wear your rings to bring in or release what you desire, something new is always learned by everyone involved in the conversation. I would like to share some of the “Ring Shui^TM” approach tips I have found that have worked for a number of people over this past year. Here are some special tips that can be particularly of interest over your coming Holiday season:

When you look forward to any sort of celebration, wear a fun ring that lights you up on your left index finger. This is a very joyous place to wear a ring, as it represents bringing in abundance and love, as well as kindred spirits to share your life with. When you wear a ring here, you are calling in wonderful energy to celebrate, have, and to hold, for as long as you would like to have it.

Next time you think of it, place a ring you love on your left index finger, (The Jupiter energy finger), and celebrate the feeling that what or whom you want is already coming right to you- with no effort at all on your part!

For those of you who have been in tune with “The Secret”, you’ll be especially excited to know that both index fingers truly are “The Laws of Attraction Fingers” in “Ring Shui”. Just knowing this is a gift unto itself!

As this is the season of giving, it is also the season of receiving, due to the fact that there can only be real “giving” if there is also “receiving” going on at the same time. So when you wear a ring on your right index finger, you are giving out to the world effort from your true authentic self.

When you wear a ring on your left index finger, you are receiving unto yourself effortlessly.

Try wearing a ring you really like on your right index finger and one on your left index finger at the same time for one to three weeks starting today.

Take note of what is released from you and what comes in. You might be amazed to note that miracles can even happen when you just allow yourself to think of what you’d like to release and what you’d like to bring in- even if you have no idea of how that can happen.

Just “know” the help comes and is always there or is just on its way. I’d would love to hear your comments and how this works out for you…share a comment or contact me through my website http://ringshui.com!

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You Want to be Happy and Successful? Get Mentally Fit

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Sharing an article that is appropriate for those of us wanting to make changes for the New Year..setting new goals)

By: Willie Horton

How are you going to be up to the not-too-onerous task of getting the very best out of life if you are mentally unfit? Unfortunately, many years of research confirms that the normal mind is not just unfit for effortless living, it has been living on a diet of clapped-out old movies (from your childhood) all of your adult life. It’s the ultimate couch potato. And, if, for all of your adult life, you had sat like a lazy slob on a couch, would you really expect to be able to spring from your couch, put on your trainers and go out for even a light jog? You’d kill yourself in the process – and, sadly, that is what normal people are doing – dying to be a success!

However, life is not a light jog – life is more akin to a marathon and, if you don’t take the appropriate regular exercise, you will simply not be able to stay the course. The amazing things is, though, if you do bother to take even a little mental exercise, you will suddenly realize that life is not, in fact, a marathon at all – it’s only our unfit normal crazy mind that makes it so. In the right state of mind, life is a gentle, enjoyable and effortless stroll in the park. Have you ever experienced the peace and calm of that stroll? Is carefree and effortless living something that you have experienced? If you haven’t, it’s because you’re an unfit mental slob and it’s your own fault.

How do you change all that? Does it require massive effort or discipline? Not at all – all that is required is just a little commitment on your part. Believe it or not, it only takes a few minutes each morning to get your head in the right place – perhaps a little longer for a start if you want to give yourself the solid foundation from which you can springboard to effortless living. And ten minutes each morning will change the other twenty three hours and fifty minutes – you simply won’t recognise your life.

What exercise am I talking about? Nothing could be simpler – you’ve just got to re-develop your innate ability to pay attention to reality. At present, as I’ve already said, your subconscious mind is stuck in a rut. It’s obsessed with your past and it uses what it learned during your formative years to make sense of today. The results? Pick up the newspapers, see how so many normal people behave so badly – from domestic violence to wars, from petty theft to the barefaced greed that has all but dismantled the economies of many of the world’s so-called developed countries. Look at your own life. Your subconscious mind’s efforts to make sense of today lead to anxiety, stress, worry, ill-health, dissatisfaction – the list, in fact, is endless. Letting your subconscious mind run on auto-pilot is making nonsense of your life – you’ve got to come to your senses.

Research strongly suggests that our ability to be happy, focused, effective and successful is correlated to our ability to pay attention to the here and now. If we leave the running of our lives to our subconscious mind, we end up paying no attention to the here and now and the results are, at best, not-too-bad, at worst, disastrous. I’ve already said it but bears repeating – you’ve got to re-train yourself in the simple but powerful art of paying attention. I say ‘re-train’ because, as children, we were experts at it.

What do you need to pay attention to? Not your goals, not the outcomes that you want to achieve – you need to pay attention to the here and now. Nothing else. It is in the here and now that life is lived. Today’s actions create tomorrow’s ‘reality’. What you do today determines whether you succeed or fail. And, at present, your normal mind is pretty much doing nothing other than going through the motions of living. Rather than reacting automatically to what your subconscious mind thinks is going on, you need to take real action in your life. You’ve got to start taking action for yourself – nobody else will do it for you.

How can you re-learn your innate ability to pay attention? Meditate. Meditation disciplines an otherwise undisciplined mind. Meditation enables you pay attention to what your five senses are telling you. Meditation breaks the link between reality and what your subconscious mind makes up in place of reality. Only meditation can fully clear your mind – and armed with a clear mind you can and will change your life effortlessly. Meditation is the prerequisite to effortless, happy and successful living.

Willie Horton is author of ‘To Succeed Just Let Go’ and founder of Gurdy.Net – the Personal Development Website. Since 1996 he has been helping his many clients change their lives and achieve happiness and success. Clients include top executives in organizations like Pfizer, Deloitte, G4S, Allergan, Diageo and Nestle. Willie lives in the French Alps, with his wife and children, from where he travels the world as a speaker and consultant. To learn more about him, visit his website.

Filed Under: Balance · Tagged With: express yourself, feelings, mentally fit, pay attention, positive energy, subconscious mind